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[hils]

Greg and I were having an interesting dicussion yesterday about socialising. He was wondering if we have some sort of moral obligation to try and help people with poor social skills. My answer was that it can only work with people who want to be helped. But what got us talking in the first place was a thread he'd read on a forum about roleplaying. He sent me the link and it was quite alarming

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[flickums.livejournal.com]

Not all roleplayers are like that! Honest!

My answer was that it can only work with people who want to be helped.

Absolutely. A while ago Ant took it upon himself to try and help out one of his mates who was gradually losing friends due to his rather inept social skills (particularly with women). While it started to work, eventually he announced that he was only making the effort because he thought all of his friends were jerks and he was just saying these things to them to stop them whining. I think Ant pretty much gave up after that and needless to say, they aren't the best of friends these days.

I admit that I don't have the best social skills and I don't think it's the sort of thing that people can swoop in and help with, but I think one can offer advice on how to boost them. I found the best way of learning social skills was to, well, watch and learn. I watched how people interacted and listened to what they said (something I didn't do until Uni as the people in my school were chav numpties) and quickly picked up on what to say and do around particular people and what not to say and do around particular people.

I think it's something that people can only really teach themselves, but as you said, there has to be a willingness there as well as an awareness that something needs to change.

[hils.livejournal.com]

Hehe! I know not all roleplayers are like that. I was just demonstrating a point...I think. LOL!

[gyri.livejournal.com]

I think it's something that people can only really teach themselves, but as you said, there has to be a willingness there as well as an awareness that something needs to change.

Exactly; well said!