A long and rambling post

[hils]

Those of you who have been on my flist for more than a year or so will know that I consider myself to be asexual. Whilst I find men (and some women) attractive, there is no sexual desire there at all. I don't fantasise about sex, I don't masturbate and I don't get turned on by kissing. Whether this is just because I haven't been with the right person yet, I don't know, but it's how I've felt for a long time so I don't forsee it changing any time soon

I've been reading about it on the internet a little and it's interesting that doctors can't decide whether it's a sexual orientation or some sort of psychological problem.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Asexual

When I was in my relationship with Dave we went to see a sexual psychologist but only had 2 sessions before we broke up. The fact of it was I am quite happy with the way I am and have no desire to be 'cured'

Those of my real life friends who have access to my LJ know the full details of my feelings, my other friends just know I'm happy being single and I think I'd like to keep it that way (for those of you who know my non-LJ RL friends)

Anyway, I was talking to robhu about this last night and he found the whole thing to be very sad. He said that as people get older and get married/settle down they will want to spend time with other couples and not single people. I'm not sure I agree with that. A lot of my friends are in long term relationships and don't shun me in favour of other couples. So, I thought I'd do a poll. Obviously you only need fill it in if you are married or in a long term relationship

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