Dream

[hils]

So, last night I had a nightmare about my wedding.

In the dream it was my wedding day. All my friends and family were there and it was clearly a wedding designed for me. It was on board a ship and the Superman theme played as I walked down the aisle.

The problem was I really didn't want to get married.

I'm not even sure who the groom was supposed to be. Someone I went to school with maybe. But I knew I had nothing in common with him and I couldn't even remember him proposing. I spent the entire build up to the ceremony, and the ceremony itself, crying because I knew that what I was doing was wrong. People were telling me that it was just nerves, and that I'd be mad to turn him down because he was rich and if I married him I'd have my own house.

At the last possible minute I had to tell everyone that I couldn't go through with it.

Those who know me well know that I am quite an independant person and I really don't want to get married, so this dream freaked me out quite a bit

Edit: That's not to say people who are married aren't independent. I just like to go off and do my own thing too much. I am a selfish person who puts myself first. LOL!

Comments

[flickums.livejournal.com]

Marriage doesn't mean that you're giving up any sort of independence. I consider myself emotionally and financially independent of Ant (we just got a joint account to save me the effort of giving him a cheque for rent and bills every month). I'm marrying him because I love him and want to spend the rest of my life with him....plus I want to wear a pretty dress ^^

[hils.livejournal.com]

Hehe! Yeah, I know. It's just me. Even when I had a boyfriend I got annoyed because all my time wasn't my own. I'm selfish like that

[flickums.livejournal.com]

Being in a relationship isn't about sacrificing all your spare time for the other person. You're an introvert. Ant and I are both introverts which is why we have our separate 'chill out' rooms in our house. If we want some time by ourselfs to play on the crack, watch films etc then we can do so without treading on the other's toes or getting in each other's way.

I'm not saying that you should go out and get a man, I'm just pointing out that relationships are about compromise rather than forcing your company on one another.

[hils.livejournal.com]

I'm just used to the single life I think. I like it.

[kazzy-cee.livejournal.com]

I was of the same opinion.

Then I fell hopelessly in love....

:)

Makes a difference. You also don't loose your independence, but you do have someone who cares and puts you first too, and someone you can put ahead of yourself because you want to and they need you to.

Love's a funny ol' thing really :)

[hils.livejournal.com]

Of course I'm sure it's because I haven't met the right person yet. I will continue to be cynical until I do ;)

[danaid-luv.livejournal.com]

...and then I cackle & take it a step further & say, Then watch out if you ever consider having babies!

No-strings-attached-free-time? Wot's that?? *snorting*

[hils.livejournal.com]

LOL! No babies for me! Ever! I am so not maternal at all!

[foxrafer.livejournal.com]

Dreams can be so unsettling, and the idea of almost marrying someone you don't want to is very disturbing. What I like is that you're dream continued to you finally telling everyone it wasn't going to happen. I often force myself to wake up before I can do something in my dream to stop the scary thing.